Before you decide to have an affair, part II

And if you think you have met the companion of your life, it is worthy to drop the things you are doing to be his/her company. They are special because if you don't pay enough attention to them you will never complete yourself and you will lose them.

But how do we identify such particular person from other people? We may feel happy when we are with someone. But it's not enough, yet. You feel safe, easy and at peace when you are with such person. You know without them you will not be complete. Do remember this is different from the feeling that you don't want to leave them.

[笔记]独立的中国文化及其认同

2005年6月的《书城》杂志，专题文章是在《国家认同和文明传统》标题下的三篇文章。分别从中国传统文化、国家认知和西方的认知实践的角度来论述如何确立国家、民族和文化认同，以及如何从正确的视点评价中国传统文化的问题。

甘阳认为，国内的文化研究者应当学会从中国人自己的眼光看待中国文化，而不是跟着西方学者的眼光走，或者以西方的方式来研究中国的文化问题。中国文化和社会经济有其特点，西方人用他们的方式看不懂，中国人用西方的方式也看不懂。

全球化时代研究中国问题需要从全球的角度来看。首先是从世界文明历史角度了解中国历史。中国历史与西方历史缺乏联系，二者的交往史是没有多少意义的。其次是要避免西方中心论的观点。中国的许多问题西方人无法理解，中国人也要新的手段才能理解。

刘擎则提出，在整个社会颂扬多元化的今天，我们仍然需要一种共同的价值认同。在这种认同的基础上，价值之间的冲突可以通过协商和对话来解决，至少可以解决绝大多数。

在美国，由于种族构成的多元化和整体价值认同的缺失，文化杂多主义正在瓦解这个国家的文化基础。因此，亨廷顿认为需要复兴文化保守主义。而强世功认为在文化的保存方面，美国的保守主义者才是我们的盟友，因为自由派会引起文化杂多主义，而中国传统文化和价值认同也在受着文化杂多主义的威胁。

Before you decide to have an affair

Yesterday Palo invited Vstarloss and I to a dinner. After that when we walk back we talked about celibate. Vstarloss says he may one day give up this. But Palo says that he won't as long as there is something for him to do. One won't feel alone when he's doing something he thinks interest.

I think Palo's words make sense. You have to invest a lot of time when you are in an affair. If you have something else to do, especially when you are interested in that, the time you invested in love affairs will make you feel painful.

I have to stop here because my friends are calling me for a dinner.
Continue next time.

领签证的这天

今天应该是这几天中醒得最早的一天，早上5点多就醒了一次，因为我睡在外面，感觉到雨点打到帐篷上了，连忙把两个帐篷都搬进屋里，然后才接着睡。7：30，虽然手机没有响，但也醒过来准备到签证中心去领取签证结果。

9：30左右到了签证中心，然后拿到了黄信封。出门后一看，很遗憾，没有过。签证官拒绝的理由是我提供的财产证明不够详尽，没有资金历史，而且工作证明显得太简陋，完全不像有那种收入的人的公司开具的。其实拒绝的理由很充分，我也不好再申诉了。犹豫了一下要不要先回家，过一段时间再回来签证，但跟家里打了电话后还是决定先在这里把事情办完再回去。

下午比较懒惰，在楼顶玩了一下午游戏，甚至还用 S/L 大法把 Metal Slug Advance 打穿了。自己觉得很罪恶，居然一下午什么事也没有做，包括一些十分应该去做的事。但现在的状态就是想先休息。晚上 Palo 请客，原定的大鲨鱼据说已经没有什么菜了，所以改去吃日本料理。这是我头一次吃真正的料理，觉得米饭加果醋的味道很好。其他菜也很不错，尤其是烤鳗鱼和金枪鱼手卷。个人觉得我们肯定把58元/人的餐价吃回本了，大概那家店的人也没有见过像我们这样海塞的吧……

Coming back from Tibet

Again I am in hot, humid Beijing. Again I am busy preparing visa application. The journey to Tibet may just mean little to me now. However, allowed some time, it may finally become one essential part in my life. I can't deny that in this very journey I decided that I will go on climbing. The Seven Summits? The 14 8000ms? They are not that far as before.

My blog in blog-city.com is to be deleted. Let it be. To make one good blog is enough.

The University of Edinburgh just give me offer today. Too late, geez, or I will surely accept it without any hesitate.